a woman may have her sexual desires interfered by her external situation. She may want to be intimate with her partner but something (stress, uncertainty, distraction) is preventing her from being present in the moment, and thus prevents orgasm, complete letting go, or feeling like she is a part of the connection. How can she heal this?
I don't know where to start looking for healing in this. To look inward in this instance is confusing. I am not sure where to turn. Is it mental? Physical? Spiritual? Do men have the same experience? Though I try to discuss this with my partner, he states he does not understand because he can't find an answer or "fix". I question if it is truly a problem, since I know in my heart that it is temporary. How can I help him understand this? How can I help him through this so he does not feel rejected or pull back? His solution is to quit being intimate for a while. My heart feels broken when this is the case. I feel we need to work together, not apart on this issue, but perhaps he is right. Since it is my head that is getting in the way, I recognize that I need to do my work in this area.
How can I start this work? Where do I look first? Can I affect change in some area of my life where I am not? Is it a reflection of my inability to be present elsewhere in my life? Is there something between us that is missing? I find him incredibly attractive. Our most recent sexual experience was the best yet, so I don't think that our sex life is troubled. However, apparently it is...
Ladies, can you give me some clues, ideas, or suggestions?
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Hyena vs. Maitaca
As the machines, chainsaws and humans came closer and closer, the animals of the forest decided they needed to determine how they were going to deal with their ever-shrinking homeland. All of the animals came, and they invited representatives from all the other shrinking forests to help. They met for minutes and hours and days and nights and weeks, discussing different strategies.
Many animals, like the jaguar, wanted to continue to shrink back, do nothing and continue to hide. Others, like the ants, wanted to take the humans by an army of force. "It's too noisy!" said the bats, who could no longer find food to eat in their blindness. "What if we overpower them with sound?" suggested the muskrat. "Oh yes, they are truly afraid of the forest noises!" said the owl, "surely we could win at such a war." Many of the animals thought this was a great plan, "But who can make so much noise? I can not compete with their machines," said the snake. The animals debated and thought. Many animals suggested they would like to try.
First came the sparrows. They rang up such a chorus of songs that the elephant had to cover his ears. Still the machines came.
Then came the cicadas. They made as much noise as they could, but it only went to the forest walls, and still the machines came.
Many animals came forth but they were no competition for the machines of man.
Then came forth a strange parrot of Brasil, Maitaca. His bright hue drew the attention of the crowd. He started to sing, and it was beautiful but there also was something different about his song. It made all the animals smile. He could not sing loud but there was promise in the feeling that he shared as he flew, ducked and dove, and belted his favourite tunes. One of the bravest, but most hated animals then came forward. He said "I like this bird. He is not loud, but he shows strength in being positive. I am one of the most hated and feared animals of the jungle, but I too know this feeling. My kind has learned to laugh to cope with being so despised and we are known for our calls. I too, would like to try." And so the Hyena started to cackle, and laugh, and Maitaca continued to swoop and dive and sing. Soon, they were playing a game: as the bird dove, the hyena laughed up at him and back and forth they called to each other.
Soon enough all of the animals were smiling for the beauty of Maitaca's song. And as the game between hyena and maitaca continued, they started to laugh. It was so funny to watch, and hyena's laugh was so contagious they could not help themselves! The more they laughed, the more they laughed and soon all of the animals of all the forests were laughing, clutching their sides, stomping the ground with their hooves, and crying; they were laughing and smiling so much! The sound of laughter spread to the edge of the forest, and then to the sky, and then out over the entire land, and the more the animals laughed, the funnier it sounded to everyone, and so they continued to laugh.
Sam looked at Joe. The tree crashed to the ground, but the chopper didn't come to get it. Sam and Joe looked at Sandra, in the cab of the machinery. She was staring at the forest, wide eyed. Sam looked in the direction of the forest and cocked his head. Joe adjusted his hard hat and turned off his chain saw to figure out what he was missing. Soon, all the machines started to turn off as each person started to listen. From the forest came the most incredible sound - It sounded like FUN! Sandra started to giggle. Joe put down his chainsaw and started to laugh. Sam nearly fell out of the tree as he started to laugh. What was that noise they were hearing? Who knew, it was so contagious!
As the animals from the forest started to hear the humans laugh, they realised what was happening! No one had heard so much laughter in so long, hadn't smiled so much in so many years that they didn't want to stop. And so it was that the humans quit cutting down the forest and the animals kept their homes.
Many animals, like the jaguar, wanted to continue to shrink back, do nothing and continue to hide. Others, like the ants, wanted to take the humans by an army of force. "It's too noisy!" said the bats, who could no longer find food to eat in their blindness. "What if we overpower them with sound?" suggested the muskrat. "Oh yes, they are truly afraid of the forest noises!" said the owl, "surely we could win at such a war." Many of the animals thought this was a great plan, "But who can make so much noise? I can not compete with their machines," said the snake. The animals debated and thought. Many animals suggested they would like to try.
First came the sparrows. They rang up such a chorus of songs that the elephant had to cover his ears. Still the machines came.
Then came the cicadas. They made as much noise as they could, but it only went to the forest walls, and still the machines came.
Many animals came forth but they were no competition for the machines of man.
Then came forth a strange parrot of Brasil, Maitaca. His bright hue drew the attention of the crowd. He started to sing, and it was beautiful but there also was something different about his song. It made all the animals smile. He could not sing loud but there was promise in the feeling that he shared as he flew, ducked and dove, and belted his favourite tunes. One of the bravest, but most hated animals then came forward. He said "I like this bird. He is not loud, but he shows strength in being positive. I am one of the most hated and feared animals of the jungle, but I too know this feeling. My kind has learned to laugh to cope with being so despised and we are known for our calls. I too, would like to try." And so the Hyena started to cackle, and laugh, and Maitaca continued to swoop and dive and sing. Soon, they were playing a game: as the bird dove, the hyena laughed up at him and back and forth they called to each other.
Soon enough all of the animals were smiling for the beauty of Maitaca's song. And as the game between hyena and maitaca continued, they started to laugh. It was so funny to watch, and hyena's laugh was so contagious they could not help themselves! The more they laughed, the more they laughed and soon all of the animals of all the forests were laughing, clutching their sides, stomping the ground with their hooves, and crying; they were laughing and smiling so much! The sound of laughter spread to the edge of the forest, and then to the sky, and then out over the entire land, and the more the animals laughed, the funnier it sounded to everyone, and so they continued to laugh.
Sam looked at Joe. The tree crashed to the ground, but the chopper didn't come to get it. Sam and Joe looked at Sandra, in the cab of the machinery. She was staring at the forest, wide eyed. Sam looked in the direction of the forest and cocked his head. Joe adjusted his hard hat and turned off his chain saw to figure out what he was missing. Soon, all the machines started to turn off as each person started to listen. From the forest came the most incredible sound - It sounded like FUN! Sandra started to giggle. Joe put down his chainsaw and started to laugh. Sam nearly fell out of the tree as he started to laugh. What was that noise they were hearing? Who knew, it was so contagious!
As the animals from the forest started to hear the humans laugh, they realised what was happening! No one had heard so much laughter in so long, hadn't smiled so much in so many years that they didn't want to stop. And so it was that the humans quit cutting down the forest and the animals kept their homes.
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